Sunday, February 21, 2010

Missing Mom

Five years ago today, I received the dreaded phone call. My mom had died. She was 75 years old but in her last years had suffered considerably with pain. I had been preparing for that day but of course, when it happened ...I cried and cried.

I was actually the last person she spoke a word to the night before. My dad held the phone up to her ear and I told her I loved her. She whispered back to me that she loved me too. My father told me she became so weak and those were the last words she spoke.

My mom and dad always held hands when they went to sleep at night. It was the same that last night. But when my dad awakened, my mom was already gone. She had died in her sleep. I was grateful that she didn't have to be rushed to the hospital on life support as she didn't want to go through all that.

Susan of This Day posted this video one Saturday and I added it to my favorites on YouTube. It reminded me of my parents.

Did they have a perfect marriage? No. But I doubt there's such a thing.

Mom and Dad met when they were teenagers and were married for more than 50 years. And there was never a doubt that ...they loved one another.


I'm so thankful that my mom loved the Lord. I know that one day soon I will see her again in heaven. We'll have lots of catching up to do. :)

Blessings,

37 comments:

  1. I know the bittersweet that comes when you lose someone who you love so dearly.
    Not having them here in the now, but knowing that one day you will be together again.

    I was the last one who spoke to my Mom before she went home to be with Lord,too.

    love and hugs~Tammy

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  2. It's sad to see them go, but yet the promise of seeing them again makes it easier.

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  3. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how these anniversaries of losing a loved one feels. I'll be praying for you, dear heart.

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  4. Oh Dear Friend, You gave such a loving tribute to your mom. We are never prepared for our dear ones leaving us. This song reminded me of my grandparents. My grandpa passed a few short months shy of their 70th anniversary. I sorely miss them but will be glad to see them in heaven. Like you said, we have a lot of catching up to do. Thanks for sharing and for the shout out. Blessings, SusanD

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  5. Debbie, What a beautiful love story your parents shared, how blessed they were. I have lost my beloved Grandmother and my favorite Aunt so I can relate in a way. Not the same I know, but it is hard. I love to think of them already there, waiting for all of us to join them. How wonderous it is to KNOW that it really isn't the end and we will talk to them and hug them again. Hugs to you, Debbie

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  6. Such a precious love story, thanks for sharing. Thinking of you sis, and praying for you. I love you.

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  7. Wow! Beautiful story my friend. It's so comforting when we know where they are heading and that we will see them once again!!
    Hugs of comfort to you on this memorable day!
    Kim

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  8. Oh boy Debbie... this was close to my heart! That song is a new one to me, and it was so touching. I loved your tribute to your mom, and your dad as well. What a beautiful story of love and faithfulness. It's given you a real and lasting perspective on love and commitment, a gift for you to cherish.

    Love you!

    Sonja

    PS... Your mom was so beautiful!

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  9. This song ALWAYS makes me cry, every time. I'm glad you had that last precious memory with your mom. We are truly blessed to have parents who loved each other to the bitter end. Praying for you and me both...

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  10. The tears gently rolled down my cheeks through this entire posting and through the video and song. My friend our experiences with our parents are so very very similar. My mom last my dad in 1999 at age 74 and it will be five years this Dec. 10 when my mom passed away at age 77. Both were at home...both were childhood sweethearts...both married for over 50 years and both loved each other so very very much.

    This is such a beautiful story and post. My heart weeps with you in missing those precious times with your mom as I feel that way too...we were so very best of friends as with my dad too.

    Yes dear friend, you and I will have lots of catching up to do when we see our loved ones again in heaven.

    God bless you & Big Hugs,
    Alleluiabelle

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  11. Oh Debbie ~ this was such a beautiful post....As I read this I cannot imagine how much you miss her....I pray you find comfort from the Lord on this day and HE will shower you with sweet memories. Having the peace that one day you will be able to speak those words to her again is such a gift! Sharing Eternity with all our loved ones, rejoicing and praising the LORD together where there is no tears, no pain, no sickness! OH MY!

    Much love to you

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  12. sending you a big cyber hug!!!

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  13. I love the relationship you shared with your mom. This video brought tears to my eyes. No marriage is pain free, but those times help us to get to a better place. Love you, Debbie. May the Lord meet your every need today.

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  14. Beautiful post ~ and I know you have beautiful memories. My mother passed away in '03 after a lengthy illness. It was truly a blessing for her to be in a better place and out of pain & suffering but it's the missing them that is difficult for us. And yes, we shall see them again one day!

    xoxo
    Pat

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  15. i miss her more and more everyday.

    love you aunt debbie, thank you for posting this.
    xoxox -Katie

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  16. oh boy this one does it for me! We (Sonja and I) are a couple of years ahead of you with our mom going to Heaven first. I remember a visit that we sat on their porch swing one night and cried....I even wrote a poem called "we cried because we knew".....we knew they were getting older and we knew we'd lose them one day, it just all came out....on that swing....that night. You put it all so beautifully in your post and I too look forward beyong words to seeing them both again. Good grief Debbie, you better hug yourself huge from me today.

    xxxxxxx
    Carol Joy

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  17. What a beautiful love story. And just think, she will be standing by Jesus ready to welcome you into Heaven. What a beautiful gift.

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  19. Oh, with tears after watching the video ... we do miss those special people in our lives. I still have my mother at 95, so do my best to appreciate everyday with her...good and not so good days. My Daddy has been gone since 1960. I miss him so.
    Caring through Christ, linda

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  20. Absolutely precious.
    Love you, h

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  21. Oh, Debbie... I love this song. Can't listen to it without tears, but I love it all the same. Such a sweet, sweet love story.

    Praying for you....

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  22. This really touched me, Debbie. I know exactly how you felt and still feel. Thanks for sharing this beautiful story of your parents love and of your love for your mom. Yes, we will see them again. I have one waiting too.

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  23. Oh, Debbie, thanks for sharing those precious memories with us. I love your picture, and the video was so sweet. Love and Hugs ~

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  24. Anniversaries are always a little bit hard, no matter how many years have passed. Like you I feel lucky to have had parents with a long and happy marriage. That is a gift!

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  25. What a touching post. I loved what you said about there being no perfect marriage. Too many believe that there is such a thing. Thanks for your comment on Phivos blog about Laguna Beach.

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  26. I teared up over this. A beautful testimony of love & God's grace!
    Wylie

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  27. WOW.... made me think of my Momma..... I miss her greatly!
    You are right Debbie... Brings a blessed peace knowing I will see her again!

    Be blessed,
    Holly

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  28. Such a sweet and tender tribute to your beautiful Mom. Thank you for sharing your parents with us and may God's comfort surround you.

    My hubby and I go to bed holding hands too so that touched my heart as it's the way I'd like to go...quietly in my sleep holding his hand and wake holding Jesus' hand in Glory.

    I love you and my prayers are with you dear sister.

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  29. Sweet Debbie, I read this and my heart went out to you-such sweet memories-it sure hurts though doesn't it. Like you they'll be much celebrating at our reunions in heaven. Wish I was with you to just sit, reflect and cry....
    Love you lots,
    Noreen

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  30. Thoughts and best wishes to you from Norway.

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  31. More or less dear Debbie we all have similar stories because this is life... God bless all of us. Sending love and hugs. Philip

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  32. Beautiful song. Sweet memories of your mom and dad together. What a reunion there will be some day!

    Love - Patricia

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  33. What a beautiful tribute to your mom, Debbie. I totally agree with you that no marriage is perfect, but where there is love a marriage can be beautiful.

    I love that song and always start to cry when he gets to the last part of the song.

    Thank you for sharing from your heart...

    Love & peace,
    Iris

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  34. Debbie, This is such a loving tribute. That song always touches my heart when I hear it.

    Have a good rest of the week.
    God bless you.
    Love,
    Bethany

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  35. What a beautiful love story and tribute to your mother.

    The video is wonderful....now one of my fav's too.

    Sweet Blessings!
    Jackie

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  36. Debbie! Your posts of your mom and how much her presence is missed...mirrors the same feelings that I have for my mom... I am so thankful also of my mom's acceptance and relationship with the Lord.

    Every day, I still think how much I would love to talk to my mom!

    That your mom and dad held hands when they went to sleep is so sweet!

    Blessings & Aloha!
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  37. Oh Debbie,
    What a legacy of love your parents left you! Thank you for sharing such an incredible song too.
    Heaven is closer every day and our reunions will be so very sweet!

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