Or maybe you're just the opposite. You live by a structured schedule and have become quite compulsive when your perfect life is upset by other people. Why can't your child or husband understand that there's a place for dirty laundry... and it's not on the floor?
Well, maybe you might consider another approach.
An approach that provides more balance and yet brings some organization to your life. And I might add...it's less stressful. But it involves some planning, discipline and cooperation from family members to succeed.
I was talking to a friend recently and she asked me how I had enough time to read so many blogs and books. She said that she's always doing laundry and cleaning and never seemed to have any extra time.
It prompted me to share a few secrets I've learned that have helped me:
- I have set days for specific tasks. Saturday is my day for cleaning the house, doing the laundry and ironing, food shopping and errands. That's a lot to do on Saturday but this way I'm not worrying about getting everything done during the week. My husband knows by now to put his clothes in the hamper...or else they don't get done. You may need to teach your kids that they don't need to change their clothes three times a day. Did I mention there is a learning curve for everybody involved? You may find it easier to break up your tasks during the week and focus on one area of your house each day instead of doing it all at once.
- I always clean out the kitchen sink every day. There's nothing like seeing a sink filled with dirty dishes. I learned about this from FlyLady. If you've not discovered her website you must check it out. She has great tips to get organized.
- I set out my exercise clothes and any equipment needed the night before. If your plan is to include exercise on a regular basis, taking this extra step the night before is essential to your success.
Have a daily quiet time and organize your materials ahead of time. I find that spending some day alone each morning helps me tremendously. For me, this involves time to pray, read my Bible and be still. You may have other ways that you use to begin your day. I just know that for me, I am so much easier to be around and get stressed less quickly when I have my time alone.
I will focus on this topic for the next few posts because I believe it is so important to living a healthy life with less stress. I welcome your comments about ways you've found that are helpful for you.
OMG! Great minds think alike. I didn't know FlyLady was so famous.
ReplyDeleteDiana: I love the Fly Lady site. I guess I need to visit your blog too. Thanks for commenting.
ReplyDeleteAs a new mum I used to get flustered about all the things I had to do but didn't have enough time. I had so many commitments outside the home and felt like I was obligated to keep them all. Then a wise woman reminded me 'there is a time and season for everything - this is your time to look after yourself and your young family'. I felt so relieved - it was like the 'permission' I was waiting for - to put my family first. It's funny how we need to be told things (we already know) by others before we do them.
ReplyDeletel-jay: This is the time for you and your family. My friend Helen and I used to talk about the different seasons in our lives. We want to do it all but in this season of your life, your focus is on providing the best atmosphere to raise your child and focusing on your relationship with your husband. There will be other seasons in your life in time.
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ReplyDeleteWow... Excellent. You know I bet you and I are a lot alike. Would love to meet you one day. Hugs, Lynn
One of the things I am learning about being organized is that it is not a one-time thing. I've read the books, even think Flylady is terrific. But you have to stay on top of it. Those babysteps apply here also.
ReplyDeleteI have started doing spring cleaning in April every year. This year I gave away 140 books, bags of clothes and other miscellaneous items. This helps us have more room in our closets and drawers. It gives us a freedom to focus on other things.
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